Just. Don’t.

Recently, I mentioned to my frienditor that I was thinking about a post focusing on 10 words we should all use less. “Start with ‘just,’” she recommended. “It’s the most overused word today.”

I completely agree.

Now, “just” has several definitions, but the one I’m interested in is “only” or “simply.” We use this particular meaning of the word to minimize things or excuse statements that, often, don’t really need excusing.

I do this all the time. And I know I do it! That’s why it’s all the more maddening. Consider these recent emails:

  1. Just checking to see if you’ve had a chance to review that article I sent.
  2. Just following up on this. Appreciate the help.
  3. Just checking in to make sure that the document on Sharepoint is ready for my review.
  4. Just wondering if it might merit a shout-out in our next monthly communication.
  5. I made just a few minor edits.
  6. Just my $.02.

All of these statements can be found in my Outlook sent items right now. And there’s more where these come from. Even worse, some of them are accompanied by a smiley-face emoticon. (I hate smiley-face emoticons.)

So why?

In instances 1, 2, and 3, I’m trying to apply gentle pressure. Instead of saying, “Hey, could you please get back to me with any edits on that document; the deadline is looming,” I opt for the less-threatening “just” (because I’m so intimidating). For all of you “Friends” lovers out there, this tactic reminds me of when Monica left that “breezy” message on Richard’s answering machine. I might as well add to the end of each of these, “I’m breezy!”

Then there are instances 4–6. These are much, much worse, because here I’m minimizing my own contributions. Why not say, “Here are a few edits to make this article more concise.” After all, that’s what I really mean.

Part of this comes from the culture of the firm I work at. We’re all very polite and gracious and considerate of others’ feelings. But just because we wouldn’t say, “Wow. That’s really terrible. Lucky for you I’m here to turn that into something resembling the writing of a college-educated professional,” that doesn’t mean I should suppress my opinions — opinions that come from 16 years of experience at Plante Moran.

Bottom line: that simple, four-letter word makes me sound tentative and undermines my contributions. It needs to stop. But you know what they say about old habits….

So what do you think? Do you use the word “just” in a similar manner? Do you see others doing it? Do you think it’s a gender thing? (I’ve noticed women tend to do it more than men.) Also, it’s been a while since I had any comments on this blog. “Just” throwing it out there that it’d be great if you’d leave one. I’m breezy!

Word of the Week: Breezy
Song of the Week: “Just,” Radiohead

Comments

  1. Laila says

    Did you read the article by Ellen Petry Leanse about women overusing the word “just” as you mentioned in your 4th-6th examples? I noticed I do this all time at work, probably in an effort to be “nicer.” It totally undermines my authority, and I have been really trying to stop. I have to admit an occasional “just” does slip out.

  2. Mindy Kroll says

    Laila–no, I haven’t, but I’ll look it up. The idea came from Fatin and my own irritation every time I type it. I already started to type it this morning but reworked it to be more direct. It’s a work in progress…

  3. Kim Greenspan says

    Hey…..so, I just wanted to say I hate starting sentences with “Hey” and “So” and, yes, “Just.” But then I do it anyway. What is wrong with us????? So, hey, just stop. And I’ve taken note of your dislike of :-) as well, Mindy. No more. Are thumbs up OK?

  4. Mindy Kroll says

    Hi Kim! I “just” want to tell you that I’m with you on the “hey” and “so.”

    Honestly, if I dislike the smiley face, I loathe the thumbs up. I’m not entirely sure why–it just irritates me. I want to respond, “Use your words!”

    I really don’t hate the smiley face in a friendly email–it can be helpful if there’s any doubt of someone’s intent–but I hate it used professionally for the same reason I don’t like “just.” When I think about PM’s management team, for example, I can’t imagine any of them putting a :) into an email.

    Thanks for commenting!

  5. Lindsay Pillow says

    Laughed out loud at the Friends reference… this is why I love your blog! I am so guilty of this!! Maybe now I’ll think “I’m breezy!” every time I type the word “just” and it will remind me to go back and edit :)

  6. Melissa says

    I am completely guilty of the overuse of the word “just”. I’m guilty of my because I have a tendency to downplay my opinion or contribution. It’s been a concentrated effort for me since I read the article Laila mentioned a few months back.

    Anyway, I really enjoyed this latest article.

    Anyway, so yeah…”I’m breezy”. (I love Friends references!)

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